Are you too attached to your phone? Or even addicted? I know I am! So I’m writing this blog in hopes that it will not only help you, but help me. When I take the time to creatively brainstorm on things (something I’m really good at) I can usually come up with some good solutions.

Test if you are addicted. Then, check out ideas for spending less time on phone including turning off notifications, best times to turn it off/leave it behind, how to use DO NOT DISTURB, remove/hide apps, apps to control screen time, and changing habits.

This is a bit off the beaten path from my normal topics that are more directly related to chronic illness, but this is definitely a wellness topic. There are many benefits of spending less time on your phone. It is healthier for our society to live more in the present moment, not to text and drive, not be distracted from our relationships with friends and family, be wasting our time on pointless videos and articles, and not be so distracted in general.

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My Relationship with My Phone

An image of an android phone to talk about my addiction to my phone and how much time I spend on it. Hopefully you can relate… I’m addicted to my phone and I know it! Now there are different levels of addiction so don’t judge me too harshly. I would say I’m not the worst but I’m certainly not an example of someone with a healthy relationship with their phone either. It is something that I could use some work on and I honestly want to be better.

First off, I don’t like it when my brain gets bored. I will often randomly check my phone when I’m out to eat. The person I’m with will leave to go to the bathroom and I will randomly look at my phone. I check my phone when I’m waiting in lines, and in many other situations – more then I care to admit.

I’m not so bad where I don’t engage in conversation with the person I’m with. However, sometimes conversations spark a thought around something “I feel” I need to research on my phone, or check my calendar about. But I really don’t need it!

I RESISTED BEING ADDICTED – BUT I FAILED!

Even though I am considered a mild addict, I still want to improve! Even though I’m kind of addicted to my phone, I was always resistant and the last one among my peers to jump on the train with the new phone changes. When everyone was excited to be texting, my response was “really? can’t I just call?” I was the last one among my peers to get a text plan, the last one to get the fancy texting keyboard, and just about the last one to get a phone with internet on it. It wasn’t about the price for me. I knew then what was going to happen. I knew then my phone was going to become a greater part of my life.

An image of my results of how much time I spend on my phone, my addiction level based on a test from Psycom.

TEST YOUR ADDICTION HERE: Are You Addicted to Your Phone?

As I mentioned in my newsletter briefly, I was not a huge fan when phones got cameras and had music on them too. It was easier to spend time away from my phone when I had a separate camera and an iPod for music. I knew it was going to be a problem. Now my phone is always close by and with me wherever I go.

But yeah I love my phone! I love now that from one device I have access to music, a camera, internet, messaging, calls, my calendar, my alarm, and of course my GPS! I don’t know how to live without my GPS, calendar, or my alarms – those are life savers (let’s be honest I can’t live without 90% of the features)! But I still don’t love being so attached to it.


Why is Less Screen Time Beneficial to Our Health?

Here are some of the many problems with spending too much time on our phones:
  • It can change our brain – kill our attention span, mess with our memory, and more.
    Preliminary data from an Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) study found that increased screen time, including time spent on cell phones, is not just bad for the brain but can affect a child’s psychology, thinking patterns, sleep cycles, and behavior, shortening their attention span and potentially encouraging violent or aggressive behavior (Dr. Shaikh, 2021).
  • Continuous interruptions and alerts from phones are also not good for the brain. These constant alerts jolt our stress hormones into action, igniting our fight or flight response; our heartbeats quicken, our breathing tightens, our sweat glands burst open, and our muscles contract (Brueck, 2019).

    Your brain also gets overwhelmed and can become lazier. Many apps can cause a person to be addicted.

  • It takes us away from experiencing the world around us and being fully present in the world. 
    You can miss something beautiful outside, miss out on experiences, miss out on opportunities, and more, if you are too involved with your phone.
  • It can cause stress, anxiety, and depression
    86% of Americans say they check their email and social media accounts “constantly,” and that it’s really stressing them out (Brueck, 2019). Often teens who struggle with depression check their social media accounts frequently.
  • It can lead to problems with our social skills and hurt our relationships.
    Are you not interacting enough with the people around you? Do you not spend enough time engaging in face to face conversations with your family?
  • It steals our time
  • It could cause an auto accident 

If you need a more in-depth plan, check out this book! How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life Buy Here.


How to Use Your Phone Less

An image of a person on their phone at a coffee shop to talk about ways to spend less time on your phone.Disconnecting from our phones can definitely be a challenge. Our phones are designed to make us addicted. Like I mentioned previously, we have everything we could possibly need on our phones. We have access to a ton of information, people, and entertainment.

Our phones have many awesome benefits. So the solution to being addicted is not to go phone-less. The solution is just to use the phone for better purposes, which means not wasting hours on games, videos, articles, and other apps that don’t really add much value to our lives. Even if you read lots of news stories and educate yourself on random things, it is better to live more in the real world then on your phone.

FIRST, HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO GET INTO A NEW HABIT?
The internet says it takes anywhere from 21 days to an average of 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic. So that means if these changes are hard for you to do – just keep on doing them and they may eventually become natural or even automatic to you.

TURN OFF Most or All Notifications

No one needs notifications for every app. Most people do not need to know every time they receive an email or something happens on social media. You know you are going to probably check it once a day anyway, or maybe more or less depending on the importance of your social media or emails. So do yourself a favor and turn off those notifications.

Last time I got a new phone it was driving me nuts with all the pop up messages and beeps. You can get email, messenger notifications, and so much more! I turned off all my email and social media notifications and now I only get text notifications. But those annoy me sometimes too.

Smart Watch?
Umm do you really need the smart watch that sends you notifications? I have Fitbit that I use just to track my steps, and I refuse to turn on notifications from my phone. I really don’t need to be that connected to my phone, know every time someone texts me, emails me, or whatever it is. I’m sorry, I don’t get it. But I guess if you only wear it for certain activities – it may make sense.

Need to know the time? Just get a regular watch and stop looking at a phone or a Smart Watch which can drag you into all sorts of other activities.

An image with a phone and a caution sign over it to talk about how you should turn off your phone once in awhile.Leave it Behind or TURN IT OFF!

One thought I have is when you are going out to eat and you are not expecting any emergency calls, just leave the phone in the car. What if you think of something important at dinner? Carry a small notebook and jot down whatever it is and plan some phone time for it later. Your notebook could even be used for journaling or doodling in when your bored instead of scrolling social media.

Maybe we don’t need a camera or music to enjoy time at a park, time at the beach, time at a fair. Let’s just choose to enjoy the present moment and not worry about remembering it. Unless we are doing something entirely new like sky diving or hiking to the top of a gorgeous mountain for the first time, we don’t have to take a picture. Do we really need another picture of a festival we won’t remember years from now?

If you really just need something extra to keep you from your phone, this might be it. Timer Lock Container, Multi-Function Phone Time Lock Box, to Prevent Dependence on Smartphone Buy Here.

Wait…What if I want my phone for pictures or music?

Use Your: DO NOT DISTURB

We have an awesome feature on our phones to keep us from constant distractions. We can just silence our phones at random with the “DO NOT DISTURB” feature.

For Android users, swipe down from the top of the screen twice to reveal the Quick connect menu, or tap the top of the screen twice. Click the ‘Do not disturb’ button to silence all calls, texts, notifications and alarms.

For Apple users, Go to Settings > Do Not Disturb. Turn on Scheduled and set a schedule. Choose when you want to receive alerts, calls, and notifications: Silence: Choose to silence calls and notifications always or only when the device is locked.

An image of a do not disturb sign to talk about how you can use the do not disturb settings on your phone.

It is just a simple click of an icon. What if we did this when we feel the need to have our phone for photos or music? Does that sound doable? My only problem is remembering to turn in back on. So for me personally, I would keep my alarm notifications turned on and maybe set an alarm to turn it back on. Or maybe as I make it a habit I will remember automatically.
If you find yourself constantly getting alerts and text while your working, use your do not disturb so that you can fully focus. Then, turn it back on again after your break is over. Try to use your do not disturb during family time, as well.
This would be ideal to use when you just want to focus on time with family without receiving texts, calls, and other notifications. I would probably use this when I’m just enjoying some nature time or having a date night. I also really like this feature for vacations. But on vacation I’m usually pretty good at disconnecting from social media and texting. I want to be fully present and soak up everything around me. Therefore, I don’t post anything to social media until after I return. I’ve also heard it is safer for people to not know when your on vacation.

DO NOT DISTURB at Night

You can also set your phone for a certain time of night to “do not disturb” where you get no calls, texts, or notifications. It is good to unwind at night, not be thinking about conversations with people, and not be exposed to blue light. It took me a long time to finally get my phone set up for that. We can’t think… “What is someone calls in the middle of the night with an emergency?” You can’t always be ready for an emergency. The chances of an emergency call in the middle of the night is slim unless you already have someone really sick in your life, or a person that already calls and needs your help.

Look at all the options below for “DO NOT DISTURB”

NOTE: This is for an Android phone.
So they are a bit hard to read, but the first one shows that you can set a schedule not to be disturbed, change calls/messages, and alarms/sounds. The second image shows the call/message options. For urgent/emergency calls you have “repeat callers” if someone calls more than once within 15 minutes the call will go through, and that means it is probably urgent. The third image shows you can pick favorite contacts to be exceptions to the “DO NOT DISTURB” settings. So just add family, friends, or emergency contacts you don’t want to miss to your favorite contacts.
A great guide to not just helping an addiction to your phone, but finding joy doing other things. Goodbye Phone, Hello World: 65 Ways to Disconnect from Tech and Reconnect to Joy Buy Now.[/tab] [/tabs]

Remove or Hide Apps You Use Too Often 

An image of some phone apps to talk about removing, hiding, or limiting screen time for apps to spend less time on your phone.Spending Less Time on Social Media

If you are addicted to social media and you don’t like how much time you spend on it – remove it from your phone. You can also take the icon off your home screen so that it takes you longer to find it.

Replacements

You could get a normal camera, a normal alarm clock, or listen to music from another device. Yes it will cost you money. But do you remember a time where you were just happy doing whatever you were doing without looking at your phone? Maybe experiment and keep track of how many times you touch your phone a day – it could be worse than you think.

What are You Using Your Phone For?

An image of a girl sitting on a deck looking at her phone to talk about getting addicted to apps that suck all your time.

Remember, the younger generation is watching you! They follow more of what you do then what you say (that’s what I keep hearing). We have to help them to not become addicted because it is far easier of them to watch tons of pointless stuff and not engage in society. So it is important to set a good example.
Do you fall down a rabbit hole of watching hours of Youtube videos? Do you watch mindless TikTok videos? I personally don’t struggle with that, but I still struggle.
I will just randomly scroll Facebook at times. Sometimes I see an article I’m interested in reading and it is completely pointless for me to read, but curiosity gets the better of me. However, I rarely spend more than 5 minutes looking at pointless stuff. I’m really good at focusing on my work without distractions.
This book is a bit different then the other books. It’s not attacking technology, just showing how to use it for better purposes. It will also help you focus on living your best life and being more mindful. Outsmart Your Smartphone: Conscious Tech Habits for Finding Happiness, Balance, and Connection Buy Now.

Solution? Apps to Control Screen Time

You can set time limits on apps and add passwords to help remind you that you’ve reached your maximum time limit. Some of these apps are made specifically made for kids, but what a good example that will set when you show your kids that you are using a time limit app too. 7 Apps That Help Control Screen Time

Great tips in this video too!


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Resources

Dr. Shaikh, Jasmine. (2021, August 4). MedicineNet/How Do Cell Phones Affect a Child’s Brain?. Retrieved from: https://www.medicinenet.com/how_do_cell_phones_affect_a_childs_brain/article.htm

Brueck, HIlary (2019, March 1). INSIDER/This is what your smartphone is doing to your brain — and it isn’t good. Retrieved from: https://www.businessinsider.com/what-your-smartphone-is-doing-to-your-brain-and-it-isnt-good-2018-3

Jena

Jena

I have a Wellness Coach Certificate, I’m an entrepreneur, an innovator, writer, and artist. My expertise includes over 7 years of marketing, research, and developing content for holistic health businesses. Plus, my own personal journey of becoming chronically sick: understanding what went wrong, and finding a way to heal and live a healthier life. I have a passion for wellness with a wealth of knowledge surrounding: wellness, flaws in healthcare, root causes for chronic illnesses, and alternative treatments.

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